Friday, March 20, 2009

You're Only Dating Yourself

Somewhere in all my self-help travels, I had an epiphany about Semi-Homeless and every other Mr. Wrong I dated and mated.

On some level, I was dating who I was at the time.

Hard to wash that one down on an empty stomach, given the calvacade of losers that have made pit stops between my sheets.

But it's true.

When I met Semi-Homeless, I was a broke, broken, irresponsible, lost person who was sponging off my Great Aunt. And the only real difference between me and Semi-Homeless was the degree to which we were both broke, broken, irresponsible, lost and sponging off other people.

I looked better. I smelled better. I had a degree. But on a certain level, Semi-Homeless and I had a lot in common: We were both bums.

Opposites don't attract. The head on the coin and the tail on the coin look different on the surface, but they're made out of the same material and they're hiding out in the same wallet.

Are you dating a loser? Someone who's bad for you? Someone who seems to be your opposite?

Chances are, you're dating your own insecurities, your own disappointments, your own unresolved issues.

Get better.

I did.

(Semi-Homeless Diaries Parts 1-12: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 | Lessons Learned Part 2 of 2: 1 2)

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6 comments:

Laetitia :-) said...

I love the coin analogy.

Anne said...

I need to start sending some people I know over to your blog to read it. Very good...keep up the great advice.

Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Are you making me think about my relationship?

Shit! I should really think over it now.

Kisses.

Don't Be a Slut said...

Luscious - I don't know why but that comment made me laugh. (I think you think about your relationship all the time, maybe that's why I thought it was funny.) Anyway, hang in there with G.

Anne - welcome! Please help me get the word out.

Laetitia - can't lay claim to originating the coin analogy - I think I heard it in a sermon or read it in a book, but the "hiding out in the wallet part" was all me. LOL.

Cheron L. Hall said...

Come on nah! Preach prechaaAAAAh!! I came to this conclusion just last year...very revealing realizing you are looking at your own reflection...very revealing...

Lion-ess said...

so true

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