Wednesday, March 18, 2009

When in Crisis, Wait ... Don't Date

The most important lesson I learned from my Semi-Homeless debacle is that it's impossible to make good dating decisions when you're in the midst of a major life crisis.

When you're home situation is so bad you're spending 12 hours a day in the mall, you don't need a man. You need a new place to live.

When you're deeply depressed and suffering from an STD, you don't need a man. You need a doctor.

When you're broke and your career is in shambles, you don't need a man. You need a job.

Having a man is not going to make the mess you've made of your own life magically turn out alright.

It's up to you to save yourself.

Because the bum you pick up off the street – in my case, literally, not figuratively – is not going to make your life easier. He's going to be one more nasty, smelly problem for you to solve.

Please do yourself a favor, and just start solving the problems you already have.

(Semi-Homeless Diaries Parts 1-12: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 | Lessons Learned Part 1 of 2: 1 2)

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6 comments:

izzie said...

Once again you are so right!
I know I'm a lot oyunger... but I already see things like that... and have lost some "friends" as a result fo speaking my mind out about these type of situations...

Love,

sospokesaroj said...

Oooo yea definitely agree. It's important to have everything tidied up on our end before entertaining the whims of any guy. It just makes things too complicated if there are major issues going on for one or both people. Gotta be comfortable in your own skin and in your own situation at that point before letting another person into your life.

brookeamanda said...

My mom did a great job of teaching me that lesson growing up. More women need to hear it!

Cheron L. Hall said...

ditto.

Anonymous said...

screwed a whooollle lot of guys trying to find someone to love me and fix everything. worst thing i've ever done.

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