Saturday, October 31, 2009

Before I get back to the past, a life update

I'm sensitive to the fact that this blog is called "Don't Be a Slut," and that the implied promise is that I will talk about love, sex, heartbreak and relationships. But before I can get back to writing about Number Two, I have to write a little bit about today.

The last 90 days have been a roller-coaster ride of emotions:
  • I started a new job at the end of July, full of hope, full of promise. I hoped it would get me out of the house, out of sweatpants, out of the refrigerator. But most of all, I hoped this would be my dream job.

    It did get me out of the house and out of sweatpants, but go figure, they had a fully stocked kitchen filled with free food. And while it wasn't a horrible job, it just felt drab and claustrophobic, disappointing and depressing. Not my dream.

  • I broke up with a girlfriend who I deeply, dearly love. Or she broke up with me. Or we mutually broke up with each other. That happened in August, and it's 1,000 times worse than breaking up with a boyfriend. It's as inconceivable as cutting ties with your own sister.

    The jury's still out on whether we'll be able to patch things up and be friends again, but it's been ROUGH. I think about her every day, especially on the weekends.

  • I quit my new job. In the midst of despairing over my career and mourning my damaged friendship, I got an email. A friend and former freelance client wanted to get me into the environmental startup he now works for. A couple weeks and one lunch later, I got the job.

    So yesterday was my last day at the new/old job and Monday, a new adventure begins. I'll be the only marketing person in a sea of environmental experts, and it's going to be a challenge! A lot of responsibility, a lot of work, a lot to learn and a lot of hope. I really believe this is the start of my new life.

So that's where I am, and that's why it's been so hard for me to put butt in seat long enough to blog. I'll get back to Number Two soon!

12 comments:

Allison Brown said...

Best of luck with your new adventure :-)

Luscious Sealed Lips said...

I have had girlfriend breakups. It is fucking hard. I broke up with one some eight-nine years ago and still miss her even though thankfully, I made some great friends later, yet.

Luck and Success for your new venture. :)

Kisses.

Retromus-ik said...

Sounds like an interesting business opportunity! I really have high hopes that it'll go well. About the girlfriend breakup, depending on how big the problem was, I do think with a lot of work, things can be fixed;)

Bri said...

Wow...I lost a girlfriend last year and I'm still mourning. She was my closest friend. I don't trust easily so it was tough to not have that anymore.

I also left my job a couple moths ago and started a new one. I've been here a month and I'm looking at taking another opportunity myself. I won't get into it but I'm excited as well.

I know what you mean...my life took those turns just recently and I'm still reeling.

Stay positive and continue to soar!

O.F.C.J. said...

Wow, breaking up with friends you mutually cared about is tough. That almost just happened to me on an account of a sitch. I'm handling, but I salvaged. Congrats on thE new Business job!!! Yay on the adventure! I love adventures. Yay Life!

O.F.C.J.

Dulce said...

i am happy that you have lost the first new job and are looking forward to the second one. LOL. also the name of your blog is dont be slut so initially i thought it should / would revolve around sex but women have so much more to offer.

i always appreciate all part of who you are, that is what makes you a complete woman, not just the cookie! LOL.

lastly i am sorry about your girlfriend but i have come to the conclusion that everything happens for a reason. life is so unpredictable. i used to have that ride or die mentality but you know never know where life will take you or your friends. i have learned not to force things and just go through the motions. i lost 2 of my best male friends and i was close to one of them since i was 12 and now i am 27. i STILL miss him dearly and think about him. however if our departure was meant to be, i have a ton of good memories to remember.

stay confident and on your path sis! :-D

How to get a girl to like you said...

Glad you are looking forward to the other job!

SUPER SLUT said...

A slut talking love? Cum on! What do you know about love?

Enchantress said...

Hey Anita!

I am sorry to hear about the difficulties with you and your friend. I am glad to hear about a new life starting for you though. I wish you the best!!!

Don't Be a Slut said...

Everybody, thank you for the support. My friend and I haven't spoken since our big fight. I'm still crying almost every day, and reminding myself over and over and over to turn it over to God.

On the job front, the new job is wonderful and terrifying. It's the hardest job I've ever had. I've been working round the clock, trying to find my groove and get on top of the 10 billion things on my plate. But I really like the company, the people and the challenge, so it's been really good for me, but not so good for keeping up with my blog, ha ha.

Marty J. Christopher said...

I feel you on the girlfriend situation. I haven't officially broke up with my best friend, but it's been a long, drawn out breakup. And it is worse than any boyfriend I've ever had (except for maybe if A.P. and I broke up). Anyway...it's nice to be back and reading your blog again. I missed all my blogs! : O )

Anonymous said...

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